Freedom from Trauma Across Generations

by Sandra Allen Lovelace  @SandraALovelace  #FreedomWalker  #TimetobeYOU

It was a quiet morning in a peaceful neighborhood when a woman ran screaming out her back door. She threw herself down on the ground, rolling around as she beat herself wildly and tore off her clothes. If that’s all you knew, how would you describe her?

Crazy? Disturbed? Psychotic?                      

What word would you choose if you found out her clothes were on fire?                          

I trust your opinion snapped around in the opposite direction as you recognized the wisdom of her behavior. And maybe you hoped you’d act in a similar manner, if you found yourself in her situation.

This scenario has haunted me for 40 years as I’ve tried to connect with the flailing woman inside me. Decades melted away amidst valiant though flawed efforts to deliver the best I could while trying to beat back the flames of brokenness and trauma.

I’m happy to report Jesus wrapped me in fire-retardant armor, and lately He’s been revealing and healing in miraculous ways. Share on X

His latest effort, by His grace, Christ alerted me that my mother was likely driven by similar flames. Flames I couldn’t see, had no notion of nor ability to process if I’d seen them. Slowly and surely, by awareness from the depth of mutual trauma, I’ve released the questions and challenges I’ve harbored. Sadness and pain are easing, and the transformation is sweet.

Mom, if you were here, I’d give you a big hug. I’d look you in the eyes with knowing love and tell you, “I get it.” Then in peace and confidence I’d add. “Let’s start fresh with Jesus.” You know … I’m thinking there wouldn’t even be the smell of smoke around us.

Are you beating back unseen flames … carrying a burden you’re ready to release?
I’m happy to share the framework of my transformation journey with you.
Reach out,

With delight,


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