by Sandra Allen Lovelace       @SandraALovelace       #WallflowerWomen

Fear is a tricky adversary. If you’ve ever walked into a spider web, you know the feeling. Shock. Arms flailing. Get this thing off me! Heart racing. Legs pumping. And once you free yourself, peace abandons you. Phew.

But what do we do when the origin of our fear isn’t so obvious?

Once source of such trauma that pushes my buttons every time came to light thought a scary episode.. And, thankfully, once the pressures were unmasked, I was able to combat them with truth and walk in freedom. Well, maybe not immediately … and definitely with consistent effort. But victory and healing are mine through Christ.

But for you who fear My name, the sun of righteousness will rise with healing in its wings; and you will go forth and skip about like calves from the stall.  Malachi 4:2*

The situation not only paralyzed me. Its constant replay kept me from restful sleep, and led me toward the trap of isolation. I painted a word picture of my agony for a friend. When I finally sat quiet, the first word she spoke clarified my plight—projection. I felt my eyes open wide as my chin dropped. “Yes. That’s exactly right.”

Troubling circumstances bled into possible scenarios, likely consequences, optional responses, and probable backlashes. Such projections make no sense. God’s the only One who knows the future because He’s the One who directs it. (Isaiah 46:9-10) The sensible course of action is to take every problem and concern to Him, sharing the emotions along with our desires and hopes.

I undertook that process and learned a lot about myself—how destructive my fears are, where they come from, how irrational many of them are, which ones I need to face, and more. And miraculously, as I opened myself to the Most High God, He shared Himself with me—confirmed His love and compassion, affirmed His presence and promises, offered His wisdom and strength. And so, our relationship grew deeper and my balance returned.

Then he [the messenger] said to me, “Do not be afraid, Daniel, for from the first day that you set your heart on understanding this [vision God gave him] and on humbling yourself before your God, your words were heard, and I have come in response to your words. … for the vision pertains to the days yet future.  Daniel 10:12, 14b

What are the fears that plunge you into desperation?
Be brave. Take them to the One who knows you best. Time to be YOU!



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*references are NASB, unless otherwise noted

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  1. Your analogy with the spider web is spot-on, Sandra. I’ve struggled with fear since a bad car accident decades ago. Unfortunately, one fear usually spreads to another. The Lord is patient and kind, bringing me closer to healing every day. Thank you for this post!

    1. You’re welcome, Cathy. You’re right about how fear spreads itself out. I’m pleased to hear the Lord is giving you victory day by day. <3

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